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Damsel in distress no more

Life is not as magical and wonderful as fairytales make it out to be. We are always struggling to find our one true love, to live happily ever after for the rest of our days. Although fairytales do entertain us, they sometimes give us unrealistic expectations for true love.  In the stories, the damsel in distress is rescued by the handsome young prince, and somehow these two, complete strangers fall in love and get married in a short amount of time. If we all are the damsels in distress facing everyday battles, then where are our princes to the rescue?

Everyone has their own struggles. Every time we face these struggles we must accept the fact that we are on our own. No prince is going to unexpectedly show up on his white horse and make everything better. We have to learn how to face obstacles on our own, to show dominance against the dark forces trying to destroy our lives. Being a damsel in distress is not necessarily a bad thing either. The more obstacles we face, the stronger and more dominant we become ourselves. Life will throw a significant amount of hardships our way, but the more we learn to grow and deal with it ourselves, the better we will become.

We must rely on ourselves first before any man enters into the picture. The damsel must learn to handle her distress on her own, and then she can live happily ever after. From the experience we have fighting our own battles, we will gain more confidence in ourselves. Yes, we will eventually live happily ever after with our one true love, but we must learn to value and appreciate ourselves first before any man enters the picture.

Times have changed. In the past, women had the responsibilities of taking care of the family, with no schooling experience and no rights to vote. Women had to just sit back and watch as their husbands went to work to bring home income. Women had to rely on men for everything. Now, women have the rights to vote, to go to school and work, and to just live simply. We do not need men to make our lives better. We can establish ourselves as the powerful women we are, and the men must wait around for us. Once a man appreciates and values a woman 100%, that is when we can accept the idea of living happily ever after. We are not damsels in distress looking for our prince, but we- as women- are looking for ourselves instead.

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