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Your mental health matters too.

  I don’t know why things happen in life. Sometimes, it could be to teach a lesson. Other times, it could be that the world sucks. All I know is that we are born onto this planet, starting at point A, and somehow we make it to the finish line to point Z. We think it’s a straight line ahead, but it’s quite the opposite. Ups, downs, curves, it all just happens unexpectedly. We cannot explain twists and turns to ourselves because we think we know what we’re doing, but it often goes much differently. 

So here I am, opening up to all of you, expressing how all over the place my life has been. It’s been good, and it’s been bad, and there is no in-between. The good days were perfect, and the bad days were awful, leaving me just a broken shell of a woman trying to find her way back to the light. 

My mental health suffers severely. I find myself taking the time to please others more than I have time to take care of myself. I am worried people will be angry with me because I chose to do something they don’t want. Why do I feel so much pressure when I want peace and to do what I want for a change?

Why does the complex idea that we must make everyone happy exist? I was raised to think of others before myself. I lend a hand if someone is in distress as best as I can. I treat others with kindness and help them when I can, but why does it make me look lousy when I decide to do something else rather than what everyone else wants me to do? 

Life does not last forever. To get through these trenches and the lowest parts of our lives, we must make the positive changes that bring peace and love to ourselves. No person is worth sacrificing your well-being to make you happy when you get nothing in return. If you do not like something or if it brings you more pain than peace, you need to let it go– release it from your mind to heal and move on to better things. If someone truly loves you, they will understand your feelings and help you as best as they can to thrive. If they don’t, their time and energy are not worth a single cent to you. 

Take care of yourself. Your mental health matters too.


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