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Bride Survival Guide: The Truth About Being a Bride

Congratulations! You're engaged! 

Now is supposed to be the happiest time of your life. You get to marry the man or woman you love, plan a giant party (or a small one, if you prefer) with all your close friends and family, and wear the most beautiful gown. If any of these things make you anxious, you are not alone. Many brides feel overwhelmed during their "Engaged Era," and many don't get the support they need when feeling this way. 

While this is an exhilarating time, your nerves and anxieties are valid. The second you get that ring on your finger, your personal life and boundaries go right out the door, and everyone wants to know every detail, even some that you haven't even planned out or thought about yet! When is the date? Where did you get your dress? What does it look like? But here's the thing: no one asks how you are doing. 

Here is my hot take: society has made weddings so impractical and unreasonable that any bride-to-be feels overwhelmed. Everything must be expensive and extravagant, like it's one giant Gatsby party. Bachelorette parties are getting too costly to the point where bridesmaids need to take out a loan just to be a part of their friend's wedding! Most brides want to look fabulous, spending all this money just to wear a dress for one night! 

You are overwhelmed about a day that's all about you and your soon-to-be husband or wife, and people around you seem to have it more figured out than you do. Weddings have become an overly obsessive thing that has become a balancing act you can no longer control. You're trying to stay on the tightrope; sooner or later, you will fall. You're juggling everything and trying to keep your head above water. 

From one bride to another, it is okay. Everything is okay. Everything will be okay. No one truly understands what it is like to be in your footsteps. No one has lived in your shoes and knows how overwhelming this time is for you. It's no one's fault that they don't get why you're feeling this way, but you can change your response to dealing with these things. 

The truth is, everyone's excited. Sometimes people do not realize the damage they are causing, and that is still okay. Take a step back when people are overwhelming you, or walk away for a little bit if you can. Set up a plan with your fiancé or maid of honor on what to do when you're overwhelmed. Boundaries are so important. 

Lastly, remember the reason you're gathering everyone together. You fell in love with someone who has seen every high and every low you've gone through and loves you just the same. You get to live happily ever after, and the day is about the two of you. Whatever the two of you have planned is what you will do. So, take a deep breath and remind yourself why you're here in the first place.

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